Allah Almighty is the only creator of human beings. And He has created us in pairs for each other, a pair comprising of a man and a woman. No two men, or no two women, but a man and a woman.
You probably know what I am talking about here. Be patient. Do read ‘till the end, then share your thoughts.
Let’s Start:
It is one of the sensitive topics, and it shouldn’t be dealt with, without proper research and knowledge. Otherwise, it can be misleading.
Our best guidance is Quran itself (Allah’s final revelation to humanity). And yes, I have done my work, that’s why I am writing about it. And what motivated me to write about this issue in the first place, is the rapid increase in spreading of this immorality.
In Quran, Surah An-Nisa, it is stated:
يَـٰٓأَيُّهَا ٱلنَّاسُ ٱتَّقُوا۟ رَبَّكُمُ ٱلَّذِى خَلَقَكُم مِّن نَّفْسٍۢ وَٰحِدَةٍۢ وَخَلَقَ مِنْهَا زَوْجَهَا وَبَثَّ مِنْهُمَا رِجَالًۭا كَثِيرًۭا وَنِسَآءًۭ ۚ وَٱتَّقُوا۟ ٱللَّهَ ٱلَّذِى تَسَآءَلُونَ بِهِۦ وَٱلْأَرْحَامَ ۚ إِنَّ ٱللَّهَ كَانَ عَلَيْكُمْ رَقِيبًۭا
O humanity! Be mindful of your Lord, who created you from a single soul, and from it, He created its mate, (i.e., Hazrat Adam (A.S) & Hazrat Hawwa (A.S)) and through both, He spread countless men and women. And be mindful of Allah—in whose Name you appeal to one another—and ‘honour’ family ties. Surely Allah is ever watchful over you. (4:1)
From this revelation, it is quite clear that how things started, and how they should be. Allah has forbidden homosexual relationships (I will be mentioning some references from Quran later on), although He has permitted mankind to get married to their spouses (of opposite sex), and have good relationship with them, which is the natural thing to do. Whereas, homosexual relationships are the most unnatural way of living. It leads to the destruction of a family life.
Quran References:
Every child needs a mother and a father to be born. It is a natural procedure. Everybody knows that. Allah, our Creator made it this way. If it was supposed to be any other way, He would have mentioned it in the Quran. Although, in Quran, Allah clearly condemns homosexual relationships at several points. The story of the Prophet Lut (A.S), and how and why the people he was sent to guide, met their awful fate, is mentioned in Quran at relatively large number of times. Some of them are as follow:
Surah Al-A’raf
وَلُوطًا إِذْ قَالَ لِقَوْمِهِۦٓ أَتَأْتُونَ ٱلْفَـٰحِشَةَ مَا سَبَقَكُم بِهَا مِنْ أَحَدٍۢ مِّنَ ٱلْعَـٰلَمِينَ ٨٠
And remember when Lut scolded ‘the men of his people’, saying, “Do you commit a shameful deed that no man has ever done before?” (7:80)
إِنَّكُمْ لَتَأْتُونَ ٱلرِّجَالَ شَهْوَةًۭ مِّن دُونِ ٱلنِّسَآءِ ۚ بَلْ أَنتُمْ قَوْمٌۭ مُّسْرِفُونَ
“You lust after men instead of women! You are certainly transgressors.” (7:81)
وَمَا كَانَ جَوَابَ قَوْمِهِۦٓ إِلَّآ أَن قَالُوٓا۟ أَخْرِجُوهُم مِّن قَرْيَتِكُمْ ۖ إِنَّهُمْ أُنَاسٌۭ يَتَطَهَّرُونَ ٨٢
But his people only response was to say, “Expel them from your land! They are a people who wish to remain chaste!” (7:82)
فَأَنجَيْنَـٰهُ وَأَهْلَهُۥٓ إِلَّا ٱمْرَأَتَهُۥ كَانَتْ مِنَ ٱلْغَـٰبِرِينَ ٨٣
So, We saved him and his family, except his wife, who was one of the doomed. (7:83)
وَأَمْطَرْنَا عَلَيْهِم مَّطَرًۭا ۖ فَٱنظُرْ كَيْفَ كَانَ عَـٰقِبَةُ ٱلْمُجْرِمِينَ ٨٤
We poured upon them a rain ‘of brimstone’. See what was the end of the wicked! (7:84)
Surah Hud
وَلَمَّا جَآءَتْ رُسُلُنَا لُوطًۭا سِىٓءَ بِهِمْ وَضَاقَ بِهِمْ ذَرْعًۭا وَقَالَ هَـٰذَا يَوْمٌ عَصِيبٌۭ ٧٧
When Our messenger-angels came to Lot, he was distressed and worried by their arrival. He said, “This is a terrible day.” (11:77)
* (Since the angels came in the form of handsome men, Prophet Lut (A.S) was worried for the dignity, and safety of his guests among his people–not knowing that they were angels.) *
وَجَآءَهُۥ قَوْمُهُۥ يُهْرَعُونَ إِلَيْهِ وَمِن قَبْلُ كَانُوا۟ يَعْمَلُونَ ٱلسَّيِّـَٔاتِ ۚ قَالَ يَـٰقَوْمِ هَـٰٓؤُلَآءِ بَنَاتِى هُنَّ أَطْهَرُ لَكُمْ ۖ فَٱتَّقُوا۟ ٱللَّهَ وَلَا تُخْزُونِ فِى ضَيْفِىٓ ۖ أَلَيْسَ مِنكُمْ رَجُلٌۭ رَّشِيدٌۭ ٧٨
And ‘the men of his people’—who were used to shameful deeds—came to him rushing. He pleaded, “O my people! Here are my ‘daughters for marriage’ — ‘they are pure for you’. So, fear Allah, and do not humiliate me by disrespecting my guests. Is there not even a single right-minded man among you?” (11:78)
قَالُوا۟ لَقَدْ عَلِمْتَ مَا لَنَا فِى بَنَاتِكَ مِنْ حَقٍّۢ وَإِنَّكَ لَتَعْلَمُ مَا نُرِيدُ ٧٩
They argued, “You certainly know that we have no need for your daughters. You already know what we desire!” (11:79)
قَالَ لَوْ أَنَّ لِى بِكُمْ قُوَّةً أَوْ ءَاوِىٓ إِلَىٰ رُكْنٍۢ شَدِيدٍۢ ٨٠
He responded, “If only I had the strength ‘to resist you’ or could rely on a strong supporter.” (11:80)
قَالُوا۟ يَـٰلُوطُ إِنَّا رُسُلُ رَبِّكَ لَن يَصِلُوٓا۟ إِلَيْكَ ۖ فَأَسْرِ بِأَهْلِكَ بِقِطْعٍۢ مِّنَ ٱلَّيْلِ وَلَا يَلْتَفِتْ مِنكُمْ أَحَدٌ إِلَّا ٱمْرَأَتَكَ ۖ إِنَّهُۥ مُصِيبُهَا مَآ أَصَابَهُمْ ۚ إِنَّ مَوْعِدَهُمُ ٱلصُّبْحُ ۚ أَلَيْسَ ٱلصُّبْحُ بِقَرِيبٍۢ ٨١
The angels said, “O Lut! We are the messengers of your Lord. They will never reach you. So, travel with your family in the dark of night, and do not let any of you look back, except your wife. She will certainly suffer the fate of the others. Their appointed time is the morning. Is the morning not near?” (11:81)
فَلَمَّا جَآءَ أَمْرُنَا جَعَلْنَا عَـٰلِيَهَا سَافِلَهَا وَأَمْطَرْنَا عَلَيْهَا حِجَارَةًۭ مِّن سِجِّيلٍۢ مَّنضُودٍۢ ٨٢
When Our command came, We turned the cities upside down and rained down on them clustered stones of baked clay, (11:82)
A Moral Disease:
Homosexuality is nothing more than an immorality, something that need to be cured, and not accepted. If you are strong enough to bring people out of darkness, then do that. Be the light for them. But if you are not strong enough, (and I do not mean in kick-ass sense, I mean in sense of faith), then just leave them to their fate. At least, save your yourself, save your faith, pray to God for them. He knows best.
Misconception About Homosexuality & How People Develop This Disease:
Male, female, and intersex-these are the only kinds of sexual diversities, something you are born as. Whereas, being gay, or lesbian, or bi- is not something you are born as, it’s not genetic. Some people have developed this misconception that homosexuality is genetic. It’s not! No person is born a homosexual, just like, no one is born a liar, a thief, an alcoholic, a murderer etc. People acquire these sinful conducts due to a lack of proper guidance, and education about the difference between what’s right, and what’s wrong. On top of everything, it is because of the weak connection with Allah, and disobeying His rules and regulations.
Homosexuality is more of something you develop in your mind, or is programmed into you. Like, you know how you are always told, to find the right kind of company to hang out with, well, that’s the reason, because the company you hang out with, can deeply affect your thinking and ethics.
There can be other reasons why people fall for this moral disease. Greatest of all is the voice of the devil, constantly presenting the sin in an attractive and striking ways. But that’s where your ‘strength part’ comes in. You want heaven, you need to work for it. It won’t be handed to you in a plate. Fight the impulse to do the wrong thing. Struggle harder, and eventually you will be rewarded.
Evil Forces at Work:
Now a days, more and more methodologies are at work to make the world accept this immorality, or at least close their eyes, and not raise their voices against it. A time comes, when one’s heart stops denying that it’s even a sin. NOTE THAT: I am not saying that we need to be violent towards those people. They are misguided souls, they need to be shown the right way, with care and helpful guidance, instead of being encouraged on the wrong path. Though, homosexual acts need to be punished, like all other wrongdoings and crimes are punished.
In the past few years, there has been a rapid promotion of this immorality, across the globe. In the tv shows, and entertainment programs, homosexual relationships are being presented quite often. Most English shows have at least one such case, even if it doesn’t fit, even if the show could do without it. But no!
That’s the technique to draw out the opposition, to make people develop acceptance of something, even if they were against it before. That’s why it is better to just avoid exposure to such things all together. It is a sin people! And a sin is always going to be a sin, no matter how modernize, or glamorize the world gets.
Some ‘people’ uses terms like conservative and old thinking to put pressure on ‘weak-minded’, and ‘less knowledgeable’ people to change their ‘attitude towards sins’. These people who call themselves ‘open-minded’ are actually ‘misguided souls’ themselves, or worse, ‘genuine followers of the devil’. So, don’t let them empower you, and better, keep a safe distance from them.
Then there are some people who have a way of bendy words, and misleading others. I came across several, while I was doing my research. But in Quran, Allah has taught us who to be, He revealed everything clearly, and showed us the path to light. There are some boundaries, some limitations, some restrictions for our own good. The only condition to receive the message is that: one needs to read it with a clear mind, and a clean heart. One should always have faith in the unlimited mercy of Allah. If one sincerely repents, and strives to stay on the right path, Allah rewards him/her for that.
You Don’t Have to Suffer No More:
For people suffering from this moral disease, and want to be cured:
Do not lose hope. Connect with God, pray, repent. Repeat.
This is not who you truly are, you can fight it.
Stay away from people who trigger such feelings in you.
Maintain boundaries, have limitations in your life.
Stay away from other homosexual and boundary-less people. Company matters, remember.
Clear your mind, and have sessions with yourself. Overpower the devil’s voice, and tell yourself that this is a sin, and you are not going to walk on this path! The path that leads to hell.
Find yourself a hobby, some productive activity. Keep yourself busy.
Keep a positive mind, that you can fight this, and you are doing this for Allah, and Insha’Allah Allah will reward you for your struggles.
Never give up!
One Last Reminder:
Do remember, as you will make your way towards Allah, the devil and his followers will make the journey harder for you, but you should never give up. You are stronger than him.
That’s the devil’s goal, to take as much of us with him to hell as possible. Hell has already been assigned to him, no one can change that for him. But our fate has not been written yet. So, do think about that fellows.
All the best, and may Allah’s help be always with us. Ameen.
References:
https://www.missionislam.com/knowledge/homosexuality.htm
The Story Of Prophet Lut in Islam
Cup of Life with Aish 